By Janice Johnson Pemida
My husband is now jobless. Nothing is moving for him and he has suddenly lost his sight. So he has become a burden at home. I have to fend for him and his mum. His sisters have all moved to Lagos and left us to our faith. I have to fend for myself, my children, my husband and his mother all with this little change I make from making people’s hair. I don’t even have a shop. My children keep crying back home for school fess. I feel so much pain because they are going through the same pain I went through as a child.
My dad keeps calling me to bring my husband home to do the right thing. All he cares about is the bride price. He cares less about what we are going through right now. The most painful aspect of it all is that, my aunt whom I usually call sometimes when I am in a very tight corner, who doesn’t hesitate to help me, has just died. I am in Lagos right now for her burial. It was the day she was buried that I attempted to commit suicide because I feel like I am finished. Life has really been unjust to me and my family. I just want to end it all.
Hmmmm, by the time she ended her story, all of us present at the hospital including all those condemning were dumbfounded. This woman has really been through hell and back. Little wonder she wanted to commit suicide. We just ceased the opportunity to counsel her in the little way we could. I told her never to contemplate suicide no matter the situation of things. Suicide is never an option.
Finally, I and my colleagues decided to help her by raising funds for her to relocate with her family to Lagos and establish her. Also, we have linked her up with an NGO that is willing to pay for her husband’s treatments to enable him regain his sight and they have also agreed to place her children on full scholarship up to University level.
So now, tell me, would she have been this fortunate if she had died? If she had died, would she have been able to tell her story? What would have become of her husband and children if she had succeeded in killing herself? It would have been a case of unimaginable and unending turmoil for them. The effect would have been extremely devastating. In a nutshell, let us say NO to Suicide. No matter the circumstances, always find a way to cry out to people for help. Suicide will only worsen the situation.
Finally, let us be slow in judging and criticizing those who attempt to commit suicide. Its not easy to come to the conclusion of killing one’s self. Let us endeavour to show them love and care because that is all what they need to pull through.
Thank you for reading.